Friday, March 17, 2006
Post with no name
You guys are the best. Thank you all so much. But I still have one more teeny hurdle to clear. I meet with my attorney on Monday to spell out the terms of the agreement. Then we go to the judge on Wednesday, I give testimony and if my ex doesn't show up again, then I will most likely be awarded custody. Then I have to figure out if I want to yank the girls from their schools with only 9 weeks to go, or see if their grandfather will let them live with him until then. I would prefer that, but sometimes (most times) Endora gets all emotional for whatever reason and wants to go home to her dad. Once this agreement is entered, she can't do that. I won't allow it. But I know grandpa will probably give in. So what do I do?
I had blogged before that I might share the dirty details of my ex's mental deterioration over the last couple of years, but I changed my mind. It's not that I am taking the high road, (well, maybe a little), I just have no desire to do that. I used to hate him. For a long time I hated him. Now I just feel pity towards him. He really has degenerated to a shell of a person. And now, because he never bothered to contest this, to even try to fight, or even just say "Fine, you can have the girls", he now gets no say as to what goes in the agreement. I only have to go with the barest minimum of what the law requires. We had to go through mediation when this whole thing started, to see if we could come to an agreement instead of taking this to court. At the time, I had laid out a pretty generous visitation schedule for him if the girls came to live with me. But now, since he hasn't even tried to contact anyone to give his input, he gets close to nothing. Sabrina
told me that she really feels badly for the girls. Since he didn't fight, it gives them the impression that he didn't care enough to fight for them. Agatha has wanted this for so long now, but I have to wonder-even though she is glad that things went so well-why he didn't fight for her. She says that she hates him, and I am sorry for that, but still, it would be nice to know that he cared enough to try.
Once this is all over, we will have to try to figure out how to fit two more people into our daily routine-every day. It will take a little adjusting, and if it happens over the summer, it won't be so bad. It's when we all 5 have to get up and get ready for school and work that will be the challange. AND helping Endora adjust. I hope deep down that she knows this is for the best.
Manic Witch wove her spell::
3/17/2006 10:11:00 PM ::